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Understanding Depression

 

Helping 2 - Understanding Depression

  • If you don't have it
  • If you want to help
  • If you want to be helped

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Yes, to help is to understand.

Trouble is, most people who never have depression, don't understand.

How could they ?  They are used to the cause and effect of the situation and reaction.

Grief from a death, heartbreak from a divorce, stress from overwork, upset over a heart attack, anger over an injustice - those are real feelings with real reasons - that most people would understand, right ?

How about the positive side ?  Falling in love - that's a real feeling, right ?  Happy when good things happen, sad when bad things happen - simple, right ?

 

Depression - not so simple.  Sad for good things, sad for bad things, sad for no reason at all...  Sure we might assign one of the many problems in our lives as the reason or a reason for our depression.  Truth is - it probably isn't really the reason.

Depression is the reason.

Without treatment, Depression can go on and on - without treatment maybe we never really get better.

Unless you recognize the need for help and decide today to get it, you are prolonging your own misery as well as for everyone around you.

 

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Depression is wearing on those who don't understand.

Depression is scary

It makes those who live with  you or depend on you feel afraid, insecure, unsure of the future.

They don't know what is going to happen.  Everything is on hold, life cannot go forward.

They can be impatient, frustrated, angry - with you, with depression, with themselves, adding unintended pressure.

If you are not actively seeking and getting treatment - they see no end to it either.

 

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Expectations

People just don't always know how to help, what to say, what to do, or how to act around depression.

Even under normal circumstances, it isn't always easy to express emotions.

People are afraid that talking about it will upset you more.  They are afraid, period - of themselves and of you - sort of a fear of the unknown.

Just because we are not well, does not mean that our loved ones will suddenly become expert caregivers.

Expecting too much from others will only bring on more depression, sadness, disappointment, pain and/or anger.

They don't get it - how can they, unless they have it too.  And then, maybe they don't have the capacity to help because they are depressed too.

For your own sake, you must forgive them for not knowing what you are going through or how to help you.

 

Maybe life is already about as stressful as they can handle and they can't be what you need them to be.

Do we even know what will make us feel better anyway ? 

Sometimes talking about how you feel will help, if they will listen.   Sometimes just knowing they love you and care about your life is helpful.  Sometimes just passing the time together is important.  Sometimes nothing can be said or done that will help at all.  Just waiting.  

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As a depressed and suicidal person you should think of yourself like someone who is experiencing a serious health crisis or personal tragedy - such as a heart attack, a car accident, a divorce, or the death of a loved one.

Think of yourself this way:

  • You are sick, you are hurt
  • Expect to get treatment
  • Expect to suffer for a while longer
  • Expect to get better

 

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Helping 1 - Understand and Believe

  • Attitude Overview
  • "Love Notes" - Use Your Printer As A Life-Saving Tool
  • End Depression with Treatment

Helping 2 - Understanding Depression

  • If you don't have it
  • If you want to help
  • If you want to be helped

Helping 3 - Stigma

  • A Cold Heart for Depression ?
  • Don't "Believe in" Depression ?
  • Heredity - Are Your Kids At Risk ?

Helping 4

  • When People Try to Help You
    or When they don't...

Helping 5 - Misc.

  • Difficulties of Helping and Being Helped
  • Adult Family /Relative, Friend or Acquaintance
  • Don't Swear to Secrecy
  • Letter | HelpCards

Helping 6 - from DepressionFAQ

  • How Can You Help People Who Want To Commit Suicide ?

Helping 7 - Links

  • Other Sites to Visit

 

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